So, today I’m having a bit of an impromptu party for some friends and their kids. It’s one of those not quite planned things where you issue an invite on Facebook that you don’t expect anyone to respond to and they do. One of my dear friends said she was amazed how open my home always is to people coming for visits. I’d been having a similar conversation lately with some family. I think there are different kinds of people out there, when it comes to entertaining and having people over.
You have the Perfection Patrol. You know, the ones who go out and buy those green squiggly twisty plants and put three of them in an empty glass cube. Then they do that whole minimalist, looks amazing, straight off TV, fine dining menu. They get everything just right in surroundings, but sometimes people find themselves uncomfortable because people are perfect, KWIM. I see this alot on Come Dine With Me (fun show where people get together and have dinner parties to see who scores the highest). The nicest, high-brow surroundings don’t make the most fun party.
You also have the folks, more like me, who just figure if I do what I like, then people I invite will like it too. I’m all low maintenance, throw a few things together, and spend the time visiting, not creating perfection. The nice things about this approach are that I don’t spend time worrying about whether my house is perfect, the surroundings are perfect or any of that. Also, I can entertain anytime. I’m not mentally stressed about it, so I can make people comfortable.
And what I’ve found is that if I’m comfortable, others will be also. There will be some who are expecting fancy fine dining (although you’d think that if they know me and have never seen me out of a pair of crocs they wouldn’t) and they probably won’t come back. But, on the whole when you’re happy with yourself and your entertaining, others will be as well in my experience.
Since moving to Jordan, I entertain way more than I did in the US. Partly this is because my network of friends is much larger. Partly it’s because my kids are old enough to want to have their friends over. And partly, it’s because here in Jordan, my heart is with people… my friends, the Bean-in-laws, all of them. So, home is where my heart is, and it’s with having wonderful people come and go in our house and in our lives. Even when great people exit our lives, I’m happy, because at least we got to have them with us for some time. So, if you’re feeling bored and want some low-key entertaining, drop by the BeanPod… we’re always open and always having fun!
Happy Martha Stewart Wannabe’s!